In 2017 I set the intention to find what “sparked joy” in me. If you’ve been following along, you know that “spark joy” was my word for the year. I’m excited to share my reflection on my pursuit of a joy filled life over on A Welder’s Wife. I’ve summarized my (continuing) journey to discover joy into the 3 R’s to Living a Joy Filled Life.
Here’s the beginning of the post:
I remember it vividly. We were sitting at the dinner table eating and talking. My sons were joking and speaking in silly voices and I was laughing with them.
It wasn’t a polite “I’m half listening” laugh, nor was it a polite “I have no idea what you’re referring to” laugh. I genuinely thought my son’s impressions were funny and reacted with joy.
Here’s the thing – he looked surprised and confused.
It hit me that my children don’t see their mom joyful or lighthearted. It is such a rare thing that they react with surprise and wonder what’s happening when I do. It saddened me.
As the more detail oriented parent of the family I’m often thinking of the many things that need to get done for the day or the week. I’m working on being mindful and present, but frequently I am preoccupied. I know this sounds familiar to you mamas out there.
So in 2017 my word for the year was “spark joy.” It was a reminder to me to:
- make decisions through the lens of joy.
- do things that spark joy in me.
- spark joy in other people around me.
If you also feel like joy is lacking in your life, here are the lessons I’ve learned from a year focused on joy.
The First R for a Joy-Filled Life: Remember
I know this might sound incredibly simple and maybe even unnecessary to you; but take some time to remember the last time you were filled with joy.
- What were you doing?
- Who was with you?
- What did joy feel like in your body?
If you’re like me on a busy day, you’re just doing the next thing required. You’re not checking in with your body, you’re not noticing how you feel about how an event or person makes you feel – you’re gettin’ things done.
Gettin’ things done feels great in the short run. In the long run though, when we motor around in this way, we soon find that we’ve met everyone else’s needs and expectations…and we’re completely depleted.
For those of us who feel like we’ve been going through the motions for a long time and unaware of what we’re actually feeling while we’re doing our daily activities – gentle awareness is going to be our first step.
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