It is rare that I read more than one book at a time, but this past month I’ve been reading not one – but three books at the same time. I reserved The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin and Daring Greatly by Brene Brown from the library and they came at the same time, while also receiving an Advanced Reading Copy for Unstuffed by Ruth Soukup.
I mention the three books because they tie in so well together and I had a lightbulb moment while reading a section of Daring Greatly right before finishing Unstuffed.
How Unstuffed is similar to other books
As I have been decluttering this past year, I have read a lot of inspirational books that list practical steps to take to minimize the clutter in ones life. Unstuffed is no different. Ruth Soukup provides personal stories along with very practical lists and ideas that she has used while “unstuffing” her own life.
- Soukup advocates having a larger vision in order to stay motivated – creating a vision for our homes. This is similar to knowing our “why”.
- She outlines her particular strategy to remain clutter F.R.E.E., starting with “Fight to Stop the Flow”
- She goes beyond physical “stuff” and addresses our stuffed schedules, relationships, and wellness. This is similar to books by minimalists that go beyond our physical clutter.
I gained a lot from her discussion of ownership and teaching the value of money to her children. This was particularly interesting to me as we continue to figure out how to teach our sons responsibility with chores and how to handle money. I love her commission system related to household chores and hope to implement that in the near future.
How Unstuffed is different than other books
The biggest difference with Unstuffed and the other books I’ve read to this point, is the Christian viewpoint. There are scriptures written throughout the book which support her ideas of rest, balance, and wellness.
Ruth also shares her story about coming back into a relationship with a gracious and loving God. Her Christian testimony doesn’t feel random, however, because she has been sharing her “testimony” (what has worked for her with her physical items, how she pursues wellness, how she gets more sleep) with us throughout the whole book in all areas of her life.
“It strikes me that the very process of decluttering our lives might cause us to uncover the things we have been valuing above all else – things like a nice home, our kids, a busy schedule, a successful career, an elevated social status, or even things that are less tangible, like feeling good about ourselves or simply just wanting to be happy…who – or what – will fill that space?” (p. 211)
For Ruth Soukup, the unconditional grace and love of God finally filled that space after years of struggle. Ruth’s story is “messy” and real – serious depression, suicide attempts, self harm, electroshock therapy, and unrestrained shopping.
Unstuffed and Vulnerable
As I was reading her testimony in Unstuffed, I connected it to Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly, which focuses on vulnerability. I’ve only started Daring Greatly, but I was struck by the descriptions of what vulnerability feels like – taking off a mask, nakedness. Brown writes:
“If we want to reclaim the essential emotional part of our lives and reignite our passion and purpose, we have to learn how to own and engage with our vulnerability and how to feel the emotions that come with it.” (p. 35)
My lightbulb moment: Decluttering opens us up to vulnerability.
Getting rid of our physical stuff and mental clutter, opens us up to contemplate – what – or who -will we fill the open spaces with? Some of us are eager and ready to contemplate and tackle those higher questions. Some of us have loads of stuff that have been shielding us and we’re not ready to think about those questions.
Decluttering will expose our emotions, whether that be grief or guilt. It also has the potential to reconnect us to our passion and purpose. For some of us that will be clarity on values and intentions. For some of us that will be clarity on a spiritual level.How has #decluttering your life changed you beyond a tidy home? http://amzn.to/1UyxjbP #Unstuffed #aff Click To Tweet
My Own Brief Testimony
When I think of my own spiritual journey and encounter with the same loving and gracious God that Ruth writes about, I realize that God “unstuffed” my life in order to put me in a place where I could hear from Him. I became a Christian in college, and the year I came to Christ, I was stripped of things, relationships, and activities that had previously defined me. God filled those open spaces and I finally came home.
The act of decluttering happens in stages. The first part of decluttering our physical space is often hard to get started, but so rewarding once we start. Once our physical space is pared down, we can move onto our schedules, our relationships, our thoughts, our spiritual lives – areas that are often very difficult to examine and change.
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Where are you in your decluttering journey?
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