It’s the end of February…how are we doing on the resolutions and goals that we made to maintain new habits at the beginning of 2016? Out of the number of people who make New Year’s resolutions, 1 in 3 will give up by the end of January. That makes me feel good because I actually made it to February in the one new resolution I made for the year.
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Habits and Expectations
Setting My Intention is a place where I’m sharing my journey to develop and maintain new habits, whether that is decluttering, meal planning, movement, or budgeting. I’ve been intrigued by Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies framework. Her framework attempts to explain how we respond to internal and external expectations. She explains that this is important to know because when we try to form a new habit, we’re setting an expectation for ourselves.
The Four Tendencies
I recently heard her speak on the Four Tendencies and her new book Better Than Before* on two podcasts that I listen to regularly, Slow Your Home and The Lively Show. It made me curious about if I was an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel. Here are the brief explanations for the four types from her website:
- Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations
- Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense–essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations
- Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves
- Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike
Why, why, why?
I knew right away that I wasn’t a Rebel or an Obliger. I thought I might be a Questioner, and after taking the quiz, I was correct. Questioners question all expectations and can meet internal expectations easily but resist external expectations. Questioners will do things if they think it makes sense. They hate things that are seemingly inefficient, arbitrary or irrational and want to have justifications for what they are doing. Once they accept that something makes sense, however, they have no problems following through. Questioners essentially have to turn everything into an inner expectation.
That pretty much sums me up, especially at work! I’ll need to read her book to get more information about how to actually use this information about my dominant tendency. Based on the description though, I should make sure I know my “why” for a particular habit and that it can be carried out in a simple, efficient way.
Two reasons I think I’m sticking to the budget this time around is that we NEED to be on a budget and the app that we are using makes it extremely easy to maintain a zero based budget. I’ll report back other tips once I read it!
Have you taken the quiz? Can you guess which type you are? Let me know in the comments!
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